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Financially, I did exceptionally well under President Obama. I have also done exceptionally well financially under President Trump. And I fully expect to hit a financial home run under President Biden.
So what’s the secret of my past, current, and sure-to-be future success? Simple. In 2003, I stopped expecting the government to fix my problems, and I dedicated myself to becoming the “master of my financial domain.” In other words, I stopped behaving like a passive little wretch. The onus for improving my financial lot was forever changed—it fell entirely on me and not some merry band of uninspired bureaucrats and butter-tongued politicians.
And the rest, as the proverbial “they” would say, was history. Once my mindset changed, I went from being a financial moron in 2003 to being a financial juggernaut in a few short years. And by the time 2016 came to an end, I was financially independent and retired.
It’s amazing what one can accomplish when one stops hiding from responsibility.
Becoming the Master of Your Financial Domain
I didn’t do anything glamorous or sexy to become the master of my financial domain. Nor did I unearth any “secrets” that the rich are supposedly hiding from the great unwashed. Nope. Mastering my financial domain amounted to nothing more than spending less than I earned and investing a good chunk of my savings. That’s it. Combining personal finance basics with rudimentary discipline was all it took.
I firmly believe that mastering one’s financial domain is hardly beyond the ken of the typical American. It isn’t easy, of course. Change never is. But if you’re an average schlub with average finances, and you wield an average paycheck and an average amount of willpower, you can get it done—especially if you keep the following three things in mind.
If You Have Time for Sportsball…or Video Games…or Partying to the Wee Hours of the Morning…or Any Other Frivolous Activity…You Have Time for Self-Improvement
I became an SQL guru at my last job before retirement by simply solving five SQL problems a night. Some nights it would take me an hour to plow through five problems. On other nights, it would take me ten minutes. On most nights, however, it would take me 30 minutes. So the investment in time was small. But over the course of several years, those little investments in time snowballed into something big. First, they snowballed into renown. Co-workers with computer degrees from fancy colleges would be coming to me—a schmoe with a journalism degree from a third-tier college—for help on their thorny SQL problems. And then those little investments in time snowballed into something that really mattered: bonuses and promotions.
Now a question. Can you spare half an hour a night in order to become the master of your financial domain? The odds are, you can. So stop wasting all of your free time and start being a little practical. Hone your job skills, start tracking your spending, learn the art of frugality—you get the idea. Do something to tame your spending and increase your ability to save. And if you’re as financially inept as I was prior to my adoption of a personal responsibility mindset, here are three must-reads:
Dave will show you how to get out of debt, make wise spending decisions, and have money to invest. J.L. will show you how to invest. And James will show you how to replace shitty habits (financial or otherwise) with good habits (financial or otherwise). Start with Dave. Then go to J.L. And then go to James. Spend a half-hour every night digesting and applying their wisdom and you’ll be the master of your financial domain in no time.
Compare Yourself Only to Your Past Self
To compare makes you human. To compare yourself to others is all too human too. But if you compare yourself to your superiors you’ll get discouraged, and if you compare yourself to your inferiors you’ll get complacent. Not good. Someone who hasn’t yet mastered his or her financial domain can neither afford the woe of discouragement nor the bane of complacency.
So what to do?
Become a little egomaniacal. Stop comparing yourself to others. Only compare yourself to your past self. Your job is to be just a little better than you were a week or a month earlier. If you’re currently contributing $100 a month to a Roth IRA, start contributing $125 a month. If you’re currently spending $400 a month on groceries, limit such spending to $375 a month. If you’re currently doing diddly-squat on the side-hustle front, start delivering pizzas one night a week. Comparison is fun when the competition is an open book and doesn’t mind being bested. And as long as you keep making your past self look like an ever-expanding loser, you’ll not only manage to become the master of your financial domain but you’ll also be well on your way to achieving the Valhalla of personal finance: financial independence.
Egotrage Is Your Friend
Egotrage is the art of moving financially forward by stepping back. You willingly surrender some of your social standing in order to save more or invest more. A great example of this in my life was when Mrs. Groovy and I moved from Long Island to North Carolina in 2006. We left a beach community on the doorstep of New York City for a farm community on the doorstep of Charlotte. We not only lost the cachet that comes from living in Noo Yawk but we also lost a good chunk of our household income. Our household income went from $126K a year to $94K a year.
But what we lost in social standing was more than offset by our enhanced saving prowess. We went from saving 15 percent of our household income to 60 percent of our household income ($1,500 a month vs. $4,500 a month).
Few things are kinder to your wallet than egotrage. Saving and investing becomes way easier if you’re willing to live in a trailer, drive a crappy car, and deem White Castle suitable for a romantic dinner.
So don’t be afraid to slum it—especially if it’s only for a short while. You won’t suffer materially. Your bed will feel just as cozy sitting in a humble trailer as opposed to a glorious McMansion. You won’t suffer socially. Your family and friends will still love you—even though they will occasionally mock you for your spartan choices. And you certainly won’t suffer an irrevocable blow to your self-esteem. Yes, the snooty disdain oozing from strangers will be irritating. But believe me, that irritation becomes increasingly less irritating as your debt disappears and your 401(k) balance skyrockets.
Final Thoughts
Okay, groovy freedomist, that’s all I got. What say you? Is the key to financial success taking responsibility and dedicating oneself to mastering one’s financial domain? Or is the key to financial success dependant on who is or who isn’t sitting in the Oval Office? Let me know what you think when you get a chance. Peace.
> Yes, the snooty disdain oozing from strangers will be irritating.
Living well is the best revenge
I haven’t read ‘Atomic Habits’ yet. It’s been on my to-do list for a while now.
Maybe I’ll ask one of the kids to get it for me for Christmas.
4 weeks to go until I join you in happy retirement!
Take responsibility. Such a simple concept, yet amazing how many people never grasp it.
Wise advice Mr. G.
Small changes add up. The key to financial success is taking responsibility and making those incremental improvements. I especially agree with using your former self as a yardstick to measure progress.
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I always feel like I missed something because I never had that existential crisis so many money bloggers experienced where they altered course and went from poor money habits to stellar ones. My parents were great with money and taught us the fundamentals from birth. They lived modest middle class lives while growing a seven figure nest egg. We did the same, with similar results. Never had to budget, get out of debt, cut up credit cards, curb our spending, take on side hustles or grow our income. We just naturally spent less than we made and invested the difference. It makes for a boring and uninspiring story.
I had the same sort of upbringing so, like you, I was debt-averse and was a saver.
I had to screw things up for myself by marrying the wrong person, only leaving after I spawned many kids and then spending the next 17 years slowly digging myself out of poverty and paying off my house.
WHAT an idiot!
Thankfully, applying those money lessons shown by my parents over the following 6 years have brought FIRE upon me. In 4 weeks I retire. 🙂
Chock full of wisdom once again. There’s a teaching on this in the world of charismatic Christianity too. Combining the wisdom of God with smart decisions. In other words, stop letting the idiots of the world (i.e. fearmongers, social status warriors) lead you around by the nose. Do what’s best for YOU in all situations, follow the advice given here and watch your fears disappear. Excellent, Mr. G!!!
Your thoughts on how/when to change from a saver to a “spender”?
I find it hard to quit….and enjoy the rewards
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Great article. Should be required reading every year from the issuance of a drivers license to age 25.
SPEND YOUR MONEY. At least some of it. You can’t take it with you. I just had this talk with my stepdad. He’s got oodles of money. He’s 81. He just bought a new car out of necessity (the old one was on its last legs) but wouldn’t drive it because he wanted to “preserve” it. For what??? “You’re 81, you can’t take your money with you, drive the damn car” I told him. Ditto for you, Planedoc. Enjoy the fruits of your labor and don’t let saving become your God. Spend some of that cash on yourself and your loved ones. Speaking in love. 🙂
Thank you, Laurie. Great advice. Most of the things we worry about never come to fruition. And I’m sure the fear of outliving one’s nest egg will never be more than a fear for most of the people in the FIRE community. So we just got to plow through our spending hobgoblins. As you so eloquently put it, “Enjoy the fruits of your labor and don’t let saving become your God.”
I have trouble with being a spender too. Although when we spent $11K on a month’s vacation in Australia I didn’t bat an eye. I guess my problem is more about spending on things. There aren’t many things that I need.
Yes, forget things. It’s all about experiences, and Japan is beckoning, my love.
Hmmmm…we’ll see about that.
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I hear ya, my friend. Glad Laurie chimed in with her perspective. Couldn’t agree more. In Groovyland, I’m pushing for a little more spending while Mrs. G is having a hard time discarding her saving mentality. What’s helping her get over her timidness, though, are the numbers. Our net worth has grown substantially since we retired four years ago. So increasing our annual spending by ten to fifteen thousand dollars isn’t going to jeopardize our nest egg. Heed Laurie and let the numbers guide you. If your net worth is holding steady, maintain your current spending. If your net worth is steadily rising, loosing the reigns on the spending. You raise an interesting conundrum. I think the FIRE community needs to address this topic more. Cheers.