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Here’s a shocker for you: Be around someone long enough and he or she will unveil habits and beliefs that will grate mightily upon your sensibilities.
Well, I’ve been married to Mrs. Groovy for nearly 18 years now, and I must admit that—even though she’s fabulous—she does and says things that I find, shall we say, peculiar. Here, for instance, are three such peculiarities that immediately come to mind:
- She doesn’t close drawers and doors all the way.
Pantry doors ajar 
Kitchen drawers ajar - She doesn’t place cleaned dishes on the dish mat in an orderly fashion.
Really? - And, finally, she doesn’t believe that Jeffery Epstein killed himself.
Just a few short years ago I couldn’t handle spousal peculiarities like these very well. I would allow them to roil my calm and let slip the dogs of anxiety. But now, thanks to a concerted effort to become more rational, I no longer sweat such petty annoyances. In fact, I actually find them quite amusing. And the trick I use to behave more rationally is amazingly simple: Whenever Mrs. Groovy says or does something that roils my calm, I step back and answer three fundamental questions.
Is Mrs. Groovy a good person? Yes.
Is Mrs. Groovy a loving wife who treats me with respect? Without a doubt.
Is Mrs. Groovy devoted to the success of Team Groovy? F*cking-A.
I got a great thing going here with Mrs. Groovy. And it makes absolutely no sense to jeopardize that great thing by being a petty jerk-ass. What will it matter ten years from now if a drawer is left open today? What will it matter ten years from now if washed dishes are piled haphazardly on a dish mat today? And what will it matter if Mrs. Groovy never believes that the systems created to ensure the safety of a high-profile prisoner all just happened to spectacularly fail at the precise moment said high-profile prisoner decided to commit suicide? The truth of the matter is that these things don’t matter at all. And only a fool allows immaterial things to roil his or her calm.
Final Thoughts
Okay, groovy freedomist, that’s all I got. What say you? I say spousal peculiarities, providing they don’t sour your answers to our three fundamental questions, are things that you should lovingly tolerate and ignore. Peculiarities, after all, are what make a spouse a spouse and not a maid or a butler. But maybe I’m nuts? Maybe spousal peculiarities are akin to “grains of sand” in your relationship “shoe” and need to be addressed without fail? Let me know what you think when you get a chance. Peace.
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